We no longer live in a Patriarchal society. We live in a society with his-fault divorce and lots of misandric laws. You can do your best to vet the woman beforehand, but if you marry and have children, you are taking a risk. Ultimately, she has a lot of power that she was never meant to have, power which allows her natural hypergamous instincts to run wild unless she purposes in her heart to control it. I think it is critical that any woman a man considers marrying can herself define hypergamy and will admit to having hypergamous drives. If she won’t admit it’s there, she can’t control it, but she must control it because we no longer have a social hierachy to control it for her.