Then you will be accused of “hate!” and being a “hater!”.
Prax America offers the following long but good read on hate.
Hate. HATE. HATE!
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It’s everywhere. It gets talked about too much. So, let’s talk about it some more.
What is hate? Hate indicates an impassioned disliking, to the point where those experiencing it would be driven to destroy or at least change the subject that they hate. If you look at this definition and then look at political opinion on the left and right from a distance, it’s fairly obvious that there is no serious comparative advantage in haterade production between the two. The political right wants to maintain a status quo it values and therefore predictably hates those who wish to change it, wishing to change them. The left wishes to change the status quo, and therefore predictably hates those who support it. Either side can say, in theory, that it’s the ideas that are the problem, that need changing, not the people. Let’s not get into something complicated, like the degree to which people are defined by their ideas.
Since I have a functioning mind and even a few values, I have an extensive list of shit I hate. I even hate how people use the word hate!
For the sake of verbal variety, I loathe how that term is thrown around. As someone on the right, my opinions are evidently built out of pure, patriarchy-fresh, weapons-grade Hate. Leftists think we hate what we don’t hate, or what we merely refuse to value equally to what we love the most. We long ago breached the wall where hate really meant something about character, and it has degraded into a simple demonizing term, shorthand for anything the other side dislikes. It’s very convenient, to be able to say that the more heavily someone disagrees with you, the more hateful they are.
Hate is energy, and I swear, you can create a perpetual motion out of me with that word. Whenever I read the word “hate” in discourse on politics and culture, I produce more hate than the cost of the initial hate, thus violating the law of conservation of hate. Where does this hate come from? I dunno, some deep well of metaphysical hate which channels through me, the Emperor encouraging me in the background. Good, let the hate flow…
There are two other things I know I hate. The first is stupidity, the lack of coherent and well-thought-out ideas that breeds ideological bandwagon-jumping. The second, and closely related, is a certain strain of dishonesty I think of as the pious propaganda instinct of liberalism, and all the tendencies that go with it. It’s not stupid, because it often works, although those who actually buy into it are stupid. I hate the stridency deeply felt for nothing more than a solipsistic worldview, I hate the unflinching and unjustified belief that their values are objective while the values of other cultures are merely leftovers of oppressive orders, I hate the sense of entitlement and the materialism, I hate the emotionalism, I hate the dismissals of all ideas not their own married to the expectation that their ideas should be listened to, and I certainly hate the hypocritical tendency to accuse enemies of the exact same character traits they embody.
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One example that pissed me off really good a few months ago is Salon’s treatment of Richard Spencer, the head of the National Policy Institute, which advocates white separatism.
I’m not a huge fan of Spencer for a number of reasons, but nor am I a huge fan of leftist treatment of the topic of race, which will get its own post later. Suffice it to say, race matters in a more sophisticated way than the topic is given credit for, and will have cultural implications just based on the difference in people’s perspective wrought by different appearances. This is important enough that blacks were having very serious discussions about separatism versus integration just a few decades ago. But today, conversations about race have been shut down with such efficiency that any conservative who opens their mouth or closes their wallet to minority issues is drinking from a cup of hate, and drinking deeply. They might have decided to bathe in it. Might have even developed HateGills so they can live while swimming in it. Using the H-word is absolutely critical to maintaining this state of affairs, and preventing society from veering any further away from the borderless unified humanity they want.
We need not get into detail about ideas in the article, since Salon.com certainly does not. Naturally, how does Salon frame Spencer? They try hard to sound objective most times, but then you have moments like the last two sentences:
As we shook hands and parted ways, I turned briefly to get a glimpse of him walking away. I couldn’t help being surprised that that same well-manicured man had just expressed so much hate.
Of course, the last word in the article is HATE. That’s what the writer wants to leave you with, the association she wants the reader to have with Spencer. Should have seen that coming. Earlier, Spencer explicitly rejects the notion that he’s driven by hatred, but of course that’s not taken seriously. It’s not like they are capable of respecting this man. To recognize and research race with any intention other than furthering their narrative is simply hatred, stated by the executive director of the Montana Human Rights Network: Spencer, she added, is waging a marketing campaign that repackages a classic brand of hate and selling it as a benign intellectual study. Despite a lack of feelings expressly communicated here, the author assures us that, With me, he was slow to unmask his feeling about race. Because his feelings are obvious, right? Despite having come from a household that was obviously not filled with race warriors, despite a high-dollar education, despite being well-presented and erudite, Spencer is simply irrationally hateful.
This position is constant in the MSM, as race issues are simply never discussed on critical terms, ever. For the political side that constantly claims the intellectual high ground, that’s a problem. But never mind. The man must be driven by an emotional agenda, and not the same concerns that every other political activist believes of themselves: that they live in a culture with systematic problems and identify with a group that has valid concerns for its future.
It’s Salon.com and I don’t expect much. And I’m not going to say that the man is full of equally glad tidings for all peoples. Nor should he have to be: you are allowed to be closer to those you identify with than those you don’t identify with, last I checked. I have no doubt that Richard Spencer prefers the perceived culture of white people to black people. That’s a preference. Is holding a preference the same thing as hate? Don’t liberals have preferences?
Hatin’ the Gays
Similarly, no matter how many times conservative writers say that they don’t hate gays, no one believes it. Either they hate gays, or they’re literally living in fear of them – homophobia – leading to some really ridiculous, really immature, and really idiotic stereotypes of people who oppose gay marriage and associated expressions of homosexuality being equal to heterosexuality:
Explain to me the logic of this, without also telling me that the person who left the note is either an asshole who wants to piss someone off – sounds a bit hateful, doesn’t it? – or is really stupid enough to think that support for the traditional family model that has existed for several thousand years comes down to OH MY GOD QUEERS SO GROSS COOTIES EWWW!!!
Idiot. And let’s not get into the psychology of a person who would do this, take a picture, and post it on the web with apparent pride, either.
Gay people seem to get special benefits when it comes to accusing their detractors of hate, maybe because what they’re doing is loving one another, the opposite of hate if you take those words at face value. Since liberalism is Judeo-Christian and encourages everyone to love each other, gays are an embodiment of sorts for their principles. They love each other so vigorously, after all.
Look, I know gay people, I get along with gay people, and I have no problem giving certain gay guys I know a friendly hug when I see them. There are gays in my family and among my most long-standing friendships. I also respect traditional family structure and think that, in a culture bound to Western individualism which desperately needs a stronger sense of accountability, people should be expected to raise their biological children within that context. But to some people, even most people, saying “no” to gay marriage can only be traced to something personal, some visceral disgust. But it’s not personal, nor is it personal for most of the conservatives I’ve talked to about the issue.
Go ahead and ask me a loaded question: if you had gay kid, what would you tell them?
Not much, until they ask. This assumes I have a kid who is a 6 on the Kinsey scale. I would say, “Well, it’s disappointing, that you won’t have kids. But okay.” That’s about all I would, or realistically could, do. I wouldn’t disown the kid. He or she would be invited to Christmas dinner. I’m not marching in any parades, I can tell you that.
The real action comes up if we’re talking about a kid who’s a 3 on the Kinsey scale.
Swinging either way means making a choice, because men and women are different, they have different expectations and psychologies if nothing else, and you have to adapt to this if you want to have any success in the sexual marketplace. So if I have a kid who’s a 3 on the Kinsey scale, then I would strongly encourage that kid to aim for dating the opposite sex. I wouldn’t be too pushy about it, because there’s nothing more certain to push a kid away from a direction in life these days than having an older person push that choice like a Jehovah’s witness selling timeshares. I would prefer a calm discussion over it at an age where the kid brings it up himself or herself. I would also prefer to live in a world where respect for authority exists, but this is America and no father has the option of really acting like an authority figure here.
If I have a kid, that kid gets at least two decades of heavy investment from my life. Why should someone who theoretically doesn’t regret this decision recommend to their kid that they reject that choice? Wouldn’t it be an insult to the family for a parent not to recommend continuing the family line to their own kids?
I can hear the chorus of, “Well, it’s not right to push kids to live your life! You don’t know how they feel or what kind of life is right for them, what they’re meant for! You have the obligation to keep an open mind!” Sounds great to think that people have this life that’s meant just for them, doesn’t it? But there’s no reason to think that’s the case: we mold ourselves and are molded by the world in a dynamic process with plenty of possibilities. Kids are kids. They make stupid decisions and their myopic perspective on being alive when they’ve been spoiled straight to hell means that they’re usually blissfully unaware that most of their points of view come from other kids at school or, worse, media messaging. Kids are wrong about who they are all the time. Being a kid is fresh enough in my memory to know that. I’ve been around a few decades now, so on the assumption that I actually have something in common with my kids, I’m going to give them honest advice. I’d rather be an asshole than untrustworthy, and sometimes that is the choice. If this creates conflict, then fine. Parents are too cowardly today.
Is this perspective hateful to you?
If it is, you need to learn what words mean. It’s not hate. Holding an opinion and having a sense of identity is not hate. Deciding that one course of cultural action is better than another is not hate. To say otherwise is to say that having values is itself immoral and disgusting, that all decisions are equally good and the same, that all perspectives are equally good and the same, that no one is ever right. Such a position implodes on itself, and good riddance.
Somehow, it became so accepted that thinking gays shouldn’t have a legal right to marry was absolutely equivalent to hating them that the conversation moved into racism territory. The fight itself became evil, and that’s just ridiculous. Marriage is about accountability and genetic legacy, and if we were in a culture that had thought this through, no one would be encouraging anyone else to get married simply because of an emotional connection. The institution handcuffs the people in it, and it should, because creating and raising children is too important to be seen as a matter of how you feel.
Looked at in a different light, you can make one last claim to say that when liberals talk about hate, they are referencing a lack of open-mindedness and compassion. But none of this is about open-mindedness and compassion. Being compassionate would indicate that there is tragedy and weakness in being gay – which we are told it’s not, since it’s supposed to be legitimately equal – while being “open-minded” would basically require shutting up about your own preferences, while you step out of everyone’s way and let them live, think, believe, and act however they want. This is fundamentally impossible, but more importantly, that’s not what’s being suggested by liberalism in America.
What’s being suggested is a very definite choice that implies the rejection of alternatives, as any choice must. It’s a choice to devalue group identity in favor of an individualist hedonism, and that choice will brook no argument. It’s every bit as totalitarian as any right-wing ideal, which is fine to those who are on their side; they join the chorus of accusing the opposition of hate without dissonant guilt, because to them, the opposition is both wrong and is acting as an oppressive overdog which they must valiantly fight against. This intensity of purpose looks like hate because it does not lend itself to dispassion, but nor should it. If having such an intense degree of belief is hate, then hate is a natural part of life when you care about something, and it should be managed, not vilified and used as a pejorative.
But this is where we are. So, if you stand for something, you should probably just get used to the word “hate” and let its intensity wash out a bit in your mind. It’s just an insult. I’ve used the word 64 times in this blog so you can get used to seeing it, reading it, thinking about it at a distance. It’s essentially meaningless, and it should be treated like it. If you want the prerogative to have an unpopular opinion, then inoculate yourselves now.